Avoiding Regret: Five (5) Blunders Made by Parents of Talented Kids

Avoiding Regret: Five (5) Blunders Made by Parents of Talented Kids 

Every parent makes mistakes; Few are insulated from at least some regret. Hearing about already-made blunders made by parents of talented kids can be very helpful, particularly for those facing the multi-faceted question of whether or not to put their child in front of a commercial camera.

Consider these Five (5) Blunders before you consent to your child’s participation:

1.) Pulling my child out of school for a half-baked dream.

2.) Paying big money to someone I barely know to “make my kid a star”.

3.) Not taking the time to research the entertainment industry for my education.

4.) Allowing my child to “call the shots”.

5.) Assuming that really hard work would come naturally to my child.

 

Written by: Sally R. Gaglini 

Five (5) Questions to Ask Before Parents Say "Yes" to Placing Their Child in the Spotlight

Five (5) Questions Parents Should Ask Before Putting Their Child in the Spotlight

My experience underscores how crucial it is for a parent to consider the risks and costs—as well as the benefits—of allowing their child to pursue a performing arts career. 

Is Your Child’s Talent Truly Amazing?

Be honest with yourself about their potential. Seek out true expertise to help you make an assessment.

Does Your Child Seek Out and Enjoy Performing?

Your child’s comfort is crucial. He or she must want to be there.  

Does Your Child Have the Discipline?

Even if your child has the talent, do they have the discipline to work really hard? Are you able to support the time investment it will take for them to attain mastery? Over time, others do catch up to prodigies, but the time investment may not be reasonable for your child.

How Do I Help My Child Get Started?

Start locally. Pursue artistic endeavors that will offer your child growth, for example, stage and drama camp, after-school programs that foster the arts, and music education and associated performances beyond their school. Explore opportunities close to home, first, to see what they accomplish and if they enjoy it. 

Will Your Child Be Able To Handle Rejection?

If your child really wants a particular role and doesn’t get it, will he or she be ok? What happens if this occurs over and over again? How much "time in" will be enough for you to finally say, "let's go home".  Will you be willing to change course?

Written by: Sally R. Gaglini

Learn a Lesson from David Ortiz...

The latest ruckus involving David Ortiz's comment that "the rules aren't for everybody" during a recent baseball game is a perfectly placed example of what lawyers do for their clients as in mitigate the risk of behavior not particularly attractive. A short cut way of saying this is "PROTECT YOUR CLIENT!" For those of you who don't know, the designated hitter (DH) for the Boston Red Sox serenades his fans with a signature admiration for his "in the batter's box" handiwork. In the process, it roils many a pitcher.  Before "jogging" to first base, Mr. Ortiz lingers, almost "Velcro-like" to the box. His "in your face" offensive style and message to pitchers is hard to miss.

This past week, it gave rise to one player's descriptive frustration. Said David Price of the Cleveland Indians about Mr. Ortiz, "Sometimes, the way he acts out there, he kind of looks like he's bigger than the game…" Price hit Ortiz with a fastball in the first inning of play. So when the extra primo large DH made a comment voicing his apparent frustration with a team of umpires who didn't toss the opposing pitcher for conduct unbecoming, sports writers and media commentators naturally jumped all over the irony.

Enter the law business and life. Whether a client is in: court, a negotiation in mediation or even settlement discussions for a sophisticated advertising licensing issue, alimony issue related to taxation or purely a money matter related to a music contract, lawyers are trained to maximize their client's interests and minimize risk in the process. Training involves countless hours of rule learning inside: the law library, conference room and courtroom.

When a judge is hammering a lawyer about his or her client's conduct, an experienced lawyer may provide the court with the client's rationale in defense, of course, or, alternatively, attempt to direct the court's attention away from the perceived offense by basically saying, "The other side started it. They should be blamed, your honor."

As many litigators know, once you open a line of questioning in court, you better know what the answer is because shutting that door will be next to impossible. This is precisely why lawyers are trained NEVER to ask a "Why" question during cross examination. Too risky.

The concept is akin to: If you live by the sword, you die by the sword.

What is the lesson here for our kids? Precisely that.

If you open the proverbial door of discretion by flouting a rule, don't expect mercy when a judge, umpire or official refuses to enforce another one.